I can’t thank you enough for the roof over my head, the food in my belly, the clean clothes, the toys, the hugs, the kisses and the laughter. You have given your all being my mom. Through every obstacle and challenge, you always seem to push through and you have shown me what determination means. You have shown me what strength is. I couldn’t name a more genuine, kind hearted, selfless and strong woman than you. I hope one day, when I have little ones, that I will be at least half of the mom you are to me.
Mom, I love that we have so much in common. I love playing games with you, watching our favourite tv shows and gossiping about the latest news. Even though I am grown, I am still your little girl and I will always be a mamas girl, especially with an amazing one like you.
From teaching me to walk to teaching me to drive, you have kept your patience (and obviously lost it sometimes too hehe) but you have always encouraged me to keep on trying. I keep your encouragement with me every single day.
When I have a hard day, or feel so anxious I can’t stand it. I know who I can call. I know that you will always be there, to comfort and to make me laugh. Through the breakups and the bullies, you have always tried your hardest to protect me. You never fail to remind me that I am beautiful and stronger than the words others say. You have always been the mama bear everyone wishes they had.
Mom, you are my best friend and I am so incredibly thankful for you. I love you with all my heart.
Women are changing the world. When it comes to boss ass women, there are definitely a ton. But some names that have made it globally are:
Megan Markle – who was the most Googled person of 2018. She has inspired girls everywhere to see themselves as beautiful princesses and it doesn’t stop there as she advocates for education, support for women and animal welfare.
Malala Yousafzai – who is a woman who survived a tragic terrorist attack. She has written three books and her words are being carried around the world as inspiring – her ability to forgive her attackers as the best revenge she could give. A lesson to keep in mind. You can watch her on David Letterman’s Netflix Show called “My Next Guest Needs No Introduction”.
Michelle Obama – Her memoir “Becoming” has been a huge hit, filled with inspiring quotes as well as revealing her vulnerable and true self. She inspires women to share their voice and BECOME who they want to become. She revealed struggles in her life such as IVF and going through a miscarriage, which is still very taboo to some.
But, what about in tech? There are so many male names that we know around the world. To name a few, have you ever heard of Elon Musk? Steve Jobs? Bill Gates? Mark Zuckerberg? There are so many leaders around the world in tech. But, what is odd is that most of you can’t even name three top leaders in tech that are women. That’s because there really isn’t a ton, that profession has been swept of women and is male-dominated. If you haven’t realized yet – tech is absolutely HUGE and it is just getting started. Our world revolves around technology and new devices, new smartphones, new inventions. According to the Women and Technology Study conducted for PwC in 2017, “only 3% of women say a career in technology is their first choice, 78% of students can’t name a famous women working in technology, and only 5% of jobs in the technology industry are held by women.”
However, times are changing fortunately. Stephanie Lampkin, CEO & Founder of Blendoor had a vision to create a matching app to reduce the bias when it comes to recruiting in the tech field. By doing this, she wants to prove that this will essentially add more value to companies by providing them with the best tech people regardless of gender, looks etc.
I think that Stephanie has such a great idea and vision. We need more women in tech. We need more role models and mentors to introduce this field to younger women who may not even know this could be an amazing career choice. Working for a tech company comes with an unbelievable amount of benefits. The tech world is crazy, and growing every day, there are so many new inventions being created. Think about driverless cars, brain computer interface, mobile apps, there are so many sectors that are available to work in and they are always hiring. Which is again, a huge reason why women should get on board.
Now, we do have women in tech that are in the sector of social media managing, marketing, advertising, digital media etc. Those women are super bad-ass and are taking over social media by storm. Most of my favourite youtubers, bloggers and instagrammers are female and they are SO inspiring. My favourite podcast to listen to is Girls Gotta Eat Podcast, which features two lovely women who are all about empowering women, teaching them, relating to them and overall inspiring them to be better and that we can achieve our goals. They are absolutely hilarious and are by no means disregarding men, either. They feature a lot of men on the show and really love to dig into their insight. Feminism is NOT disregarding men or believing that men are below women. We are just fighting for equality, to be known. To be heard. And all of that – properly and seriously.
Be a lady, they said. Women are set to standards that aren’t reachable. We are taught from such a young age to watch what we wear, what we say, what we do. We are taught gender norms such that we must be in specific professions to obtain success, and even if those weren’t shoved down our throats – the norm forced it anyways. As women, we need to be very particular and careful about everything from clothes, to hair, to lips, to coverage etc. Making careful considerations about what kind of outfit to wear, because we want to look sexy but not slutty, cute but not prudish. The money that we spend is not for men, but in actuality to impress or just in fact survive in the female world. It is only getting worse, we have learned that if we do not like who we are then we can change ourselves. We can get filler, we can use machines to tone our bodies, spray tans to change our complexion, lashes, hair, implants – you name it. And it is not the men’s fault for this outrageous phenomenon. It is ours. We are the ones that are judging, creating these norms.
An undeniably powerful video called “Be a Lady, They Said” was created by an account on instagram (@girls.girls.girls.magazine) that starred Cynthia Nixon who is an American actress best known for her role in Sex and the City. “Don’t be too fat, don’t be too thin. Eat up, slim down. Stop eating so much. Order a salad, don’t eat carbs. God, you look like a skeleton!” Nixon says in the video, which hit home for many. But another thing that was talked about was the fact that we must hide ourselves from the men, in fear that they will hurt us. The world we live in has become so scary and the fact that we are teaching our daughters to protect themselves and to dress as conservative as possible to prevent harm – of course the argument has been going both ways for years. The empowering video has been shared by thousands of users on the site. As the day went on, top celebrities such as Madonna and Cara Delevingne began to share and talk about it which attracted more and more views. It is such a wholesome action to share something so powerful across a platform in which you can truly make a difference.
To watch the video on Instagram, click this link. I am not affiliated with the account or Instagram.
Society norms are that women are set to such a standard that is simply unachievable. Whatever you do, you will be judged for it – so do whatever the hell you want. Don’t apologize for being yourself.